Forget Fear!

Well my Loves,...it has been about  a week since I sent a post from the slopes. LOL.  Today I want to speak on fear and why fear sucks!!! One thing I learned is that if you let your fears overcome you, you will be stuck in one position; in life. I’m not a big fan of being complacent or allowing my self to settle. If I feel that I can do better, or there is something greater out there for me then I tend to chase it or change it; whether it’s a job or a personal relationship. If I know I'm not the happiest I could be I tend to subconsciously search everywhere looking for the missing piece. Don't get me wrong, I am very thankful for all of my blessing and opportunities. As a young adult I have been very blessed to not have to move back home and struggle. However, there is something missing in my life. And I’m on a journey to find it. ASAP. By the time I'm 30, I want to be in the career of my dreams, or at least working on it. I feel if God plants a seed in your heart or mind, listen to it. Don't be afraid to at lease try. I know, easier said than done right? But just try, take baby steps in order to find your way. It will all come together in the end. 

Write me and let me know some of your fears and dreams. I would love to hear them.

God Bless

B.

Snow Peak

Hello Great People,

Well I am in writing all the way from Kansas City, Kansas. I spent yesterday on the slopes of Snow Peak teaching myself how to snowboard.  I also took advantage of the tubbing lanes they had. It was a great experience! It was super cold, but it was worth the trip!

The biggest lesson on this trip so far was about Acceptance. The Great Oprah Winfrey always says, "If someone shows you who they are believe them". This changed my life and how I looked at any potential relationship, whether it's personal or business. Taking a closer look at who that person is in that moment, space, and time. Not an idea of their potential (which is your unwavering hope for who they could be) or what you think they will become. Meet them right where they are in that moment. They are who they are, not what you want them to be. In a personal situation I tend to ask myself, "Can I love this person, right now, in this moment, flaws and all?" No ones perfect, and everyone has flaws but can you deal with them is the question.

I think the key to any relationship is finding someone who you are able to love through the bad. Its easy to love someone when everything is great, but to putting up with the bad is the true test.  I never feel like someone should except being mistreated or being cheated on. I understand things happen however, no one should except crumbs of someones love, you deserve the whole cake. It takes time and patience, friendship, and respect.

So my advice is to love people for who they are in that moment, fight through the bad, to find the good and finally, never settle for the crumbs. You deserve someones best.  I hope you all have a great day and enjoy the rest of your weekend.

Be Blessed!

B.

The Winter/Spring Transition 

As we transition from winter to spring, my favorite colors to wear are  Black & White. There is something so simple and so elegant about them. They go with absolutely everything and they are always in style. I'm always excited to see what the new trends are for spring, so while I wait on the Spring Issue of People Style Watch (my favorite magazine by the way) my wardrobe is very simple. I hope you like!

Top: Rainbow

Shirt: Forever 21 (old)

Shoes:Payless

Watch: Fossle

Pearls:(a gift from my mommy)

Sunglasses: Steve Madden 

For all new Spring Trends go to: peoplestylewatch.com

Well… Hello World!

Today I would love to express the lesson I learned so well, this morning actually; never compromise your standards or your expectations for people wether it be in business or your personal life. People will try to push your limits and try to lower your standards to what they want you to want or except. You can't let them! It’s not always easy.  Until recently I didn’t notice how much of a people pleaser I was. I love for people to be happy, and not necessarily with me but with life in general. So, when I find myself in a situation to help someone, I try my best to get them in a happy state of mind. However, in the relationship sector I have just always wanted to make the other person happy and would forget how important my happiness was until it was too late. I would sabotage the relationship to get out of it, and found myself in this crazy cycle. Setting standards is a MUST, but sticking to them is the key. It’s not an easy task. It’s something I struggle with EVERYDAY, but the older I get and the more God puts me in the situations to until I learn from them, it will keep happening. With that being said, I hope you learn from this lesson a lot faster than I am. It’s a constant battle everyday, but I’m making moves towards exactly what I want. I guess you can’t get what you want until you decide not to deal with what you don’t. 

Be Blessed

B.

Hello Loves!

Well… not that I have any followers yet, but I will write like I have a million. I have been so inspired these last few days. Well… actually, I haven't been getting much sleep at all. Yet and still I have been extremely inspired and I have a lot to get done. One goal I do want to keep is this Blog; my outlet, my solitude. Work has been hectic, certain things I will never understand, however, I have been truly blessed to always remember one thing: I’m Me! What does that mean some of you may be wondering? It means no matter how hard life gets or how stupid things may seem around me, I know at the end of the day I will always be true to who I am, what I know,what I want, what I believe, and my faith that God will see me out of any hectic situation. I say this because there are days when I don't want to get out of bed, go to work, and deal with a world I feel I don't fit in. I would love to wake up and sit at my computer and work on what I love all day. Thats mostly why I don't get a lot of sleep on the weekends either. I fill my days doing the things I love to do. Don't get me wrong, I am VERY blessed to have a job that pays me pretty well. I just don't know if its for me for the next 20-40 years, and thats the struggle. Well …I wonder if anyone else out there feels the same way? I would love to hear from you.

P.S.

I know my blog isn't that interesting yet, but I have some great ideas inshore and are coming soon. I would love to hear from you!

Be Blessed!

B.

This is an exploration, to figure out this crazy world of mine. I have so many things going on in my head. The biggest is what am I going to do with my life? I have a great paying job, great family, a dog, a nice apartment, and money to blow. But whats missing? I heard the famous motivational speaker say, “ If you don't have purpose, you won’t feel fulfilled.” I think I have figured out my greater calling, but I feel like I give that everyday. What is it you may be asking? I feel like I give my best self. Not what others may think is my best self, but what I feel like my best self is. I truly love people and wish them the best, everyday. But if I have all of these things than why isn't it enough? Well… this is a journey to figure out what that void is? I’m going to blog, Vlog, shop, travel, fully indulge myself in all things that I love. I hope that all of my explorations help someone, somewhere to #befearless as the great Shamless Maya would say. She has been a great inspiration to my life so far, along with Oprah, Jay-Z, Russel Simmons, Diddy, all the greats of my time. 

Now my disclaimer is that I’m not the best writer in the world. And I often think my life is boring. However, I feel that if I can help someone, then it was worth it. I love to write and have since I was 8 years old. But to those who are English majors who will bash my horrible writing style and grammar busts, I’m Sorry! lol But this is me, bad grammar and all. I will try my best. And I do believe in bettering yourself, however I have a full time job. One step at a time. Well I hope you all are ready to go on this journey with me. One day at a time. This is all about me and I guess you can say I’m joining a movement, or starting my own. Who knows? All I know is I have to try something else because, my job, love, nor my dog is helping this never ending void. I feel the best when I’m being my authentic self, being honest, and working towards goals I LOVE. Well here we go…no turning back!